People need different things after a hookup; know your own needs and be responsive to the needs of the other person. Those kinds of threats just exacerbate the situation. Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Applying a feminist approach to dating will allow you to figure out what you actually want, which is the first step to actually getting it — whatever it may be. How much planning time do you really need for your vacation? Like Our Facebook Page. Dating shouldn't be a race down the aisle, a reflection of your self-worth, or a measure of your success.
Knowing how to recognize and honour your own needs at the same time as those of a lover, or former lover, has got its own energy.
My ideals generally align with those expressed in this blog post. This kind of fuzzy communication can end up being dishonest communication. I am working on a speculative fiction project that deals with the transformations our planet is undergoing, and struggles with reclaiming wholeness. Emotion and intuition, when finely honed, serve clear thinking. Brene Brown discusses this in her Ted talk on vulnerability.