I don't think it's healthy to inflict daily punishment upon oneself in the form of being around these folks. If Mike responds poorly, that sucks, but now you know. But sometimes, you have to do inadvisable things for love. Get rid of anything sentimental that you own to help distance yourself from them. However, remember that your friend and your ex are both separate people from you, and that their relationships are their own. They had a sparkling relationship — they were one of those couples that just radiated warm, gooey, nauseating passion — and I was super envious of it.
But it's largely a matter of compartmentalizing.
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